Sunday, September 20, 2009

The Well is Dry and Must be Refilled

No not literally! We have fresh spring water in our taps anyway!

What I really mean is the emotional well. Wendy, my friend at work, has been having a rough time emotionally lately. I know, welcome to the club, right? Her husband has been snipey for the last few days and said something that still had her crying hours later. I asked what she was going to do about it. "Nothing". She was just going to let it go on his end but then let the emotions fester on hers. BAD BAD BAD! Now, I'm not advicating that she get even with her man but that she instead take care of herself! I made the bold suggestion that she take herself out for dinner, or a massage or even just go to a hotel for a night or two where she indulged in a good book and some chocolate. Normally I would want her to let her husband know how his words had stung but that suggestion was shot down like a clay pigeon. She has an old fashioned view of marriage and thinks that she shouldn't confront her husband. BAH! No confrontation needed. Just a quick "that hurt" or "please don't say things like that" will suffice.
Poor Wendy. She has never done these things for herself (She is also the mother of a very handicapped child). She was truly scared to get a hotel room alone or eat dinner by herself. She wanted to but just is too timid. I know her life is difficult and taking time for herself is hard to find but it is a must. Noone can give, give give, without recharging. Everyone will eventually run down to the gravelly bottom of the emotional well. So ladies, take meaningful time for you! Not just hiding in the bathroom for 2 minutes a day to be by yourself. Get out of the house! Take a walk, read a great book, eat a meal you didn't prepare and find a way to laugh!!!

Sunday, September 13, 2009


I'm am so very angry!!!!! I will not apologize for any of my actions recently and I won't apologize for anything I am about to say or have said in the past. I refuse to accept you foisting your feelings of inadequacy on my shoulders. I don't care how insecure you feel about yourself; you do not get to take it out on me!!!! You are an emotional abuser and always have been. But then again that is a step up from the physical abuse you used to dole out. However, that is still not a reason to let you stay in my life. You chose to behave badly. You have no excuse to act that way.
I have worked my entire life to be acceptable to you. I have never, got that?, never! felt loved by you. I have never felt like who I am is good enough. I will not allow either of you to treat me differently than you treat the others. I will not accept leftovers any longer. I do not want conditional love. Oh wait I haven't even rated that yet. HA! You have acted toward me and my child in this manner for the last time. Is that clear?!?!?!?!?! THE LAST TIME! I won't be allowing you back into my life in any degree for the time being. You must get a lot of help. You cannot be around me. I refuse to let your toxic behavior ruin my life anymore. I don't care what happened to you in the past. I don't care what lame excuse you will lay like a sacrificial lamb at my feet. You no longer exist in my life. I don't care what the consequences are at this time because they cannot be worse than what has happened before. Just are the cause and the cure. Stay away from me and I'll do the same for you.

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Thursday, September 10, 2009

Wednesday, September 2, 2009

Lots of excitement around here!!

This evening I saw SiSi's Facebook status and saw that the nut-job ex was had called her again. I was worried and contacted her immediately to make sure she was safe. She had done the right thing and hung up as soon as she realized who it was and then called the police to lodge another complaint. This guy is soooo stupid!!! The police have been to see him and inform him his contact is not wanted but he just won't give up. I think it is to the point now that he is about to be charged with harassment. Just as I was discussing the police and such another adventure began.....
Wowzer!! Mom was the victim of road rage tonight. Not just your average run of the mill honking, speeding, tailgating fool, but a bonafide nut case that followed her right to the house and came inside. YIKES!! I guess this lady's grandson crossed the highway on his bike (totally illegal) and mom didn't see him until almost too late. She didn't hit him or anything but this lady went bonkers! She pulled out and passed mom and then slowed down, sped up, signalled right then left, then even stopped in the middle of the highway with cars lining up behind them. Finally she pulled to the side and stopped so mom came on home only to find Crazy on her tail. Mom pulled into the garage because she didn't feel safe and before she could get into the house this woman was trying to poke her head under the garage door as it was closing. She then ran around to our front door and since the screen door was all that was closed Dad just waved her in. She then starts in on this tirade about "whoever just about killed my grandson". Mom came in then and was yelling for us to call the cops. My timid mommy ran to the front door and started to tell this lunatic off with both of them threatening to call the cops. Well, we followed through. I don't know what's going to happen now but whoa what a night!!!